An acquaintance of mine, upon hearing that I was involved with EDating,
told me about a less than satisfactory experience he had at a meet-up type event.
After perusing the attendees, he quickly identified the few women he wanted to meet. Unfortunately, the women he was interested in were already in conversation and being a mannerly guy and a bit shy, he wasn't willing or able to break into their conversations. He felt that his opportunities were lost.
I suggested to him that he might fare better at a speed-dating event since it's structured to provide a level playing field and permit full exposure to each attendee. The "me first", dog-eat-dog type of person so predominant in our current society is powerless to gain the upper hand at a venue like this.
Had he been at a speed-dating event, he would have had equal opportunity to briefly talk to each person to see whether a mutuality of feeling was expressed and whether there was enough commonality to explore the relationship further.
This "nice guy" will be the first person I invite to our upcoming Las Vegas speed dating marathon.
Just my two cents...How would you advise this person?
--Lurker
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